The DDR: Sunday night’s BET Awards brought on a lot of good and bad opinions about the quality of the show. The most positive feedback was Kevin Hart. I liked him the most (besides the Ace Hood performance) from the way he began his set with the kids of Kevin Phi Kevin stepping to Weezy’s “6 Foot 7 Foot” to the way he poked fun at such shows like the “Real Housewives” and “Basketball Wives” series with his satire “Real Husbands of Hollywood.” What I really thought was dope was his jokes about celebrities having entourages full of people that do not tell the truth. You know? YES People. So he declared himself the “NO man” of the night. If you saw the show you know that Kevin Hart was giving it to people real. Busta Rhymes in that jacket that looked like a brain. Diddy and his name changes. Trey Songz and how he always feels the need to take off his shirt. Jaden Smith’s pants. The moral of his set was that YES people will have you out there looking crazy because they do not tell you the truth. They just seem to go along with whatever. I think this is one of the lessons that rappers in particular have yet to learn. That their social network defines their social networth. And some of them ultimately end up behind bars because they fell victim to what Dave Chappelle calls the “when keeping it real goes wrong” syndrome. They don’t take the STEPS to eliminating people who shouldn’t be there. If last week we urged you to BE CHOOSY, this week we teach you the steps of HOW. Step 1: RE-EVALUATE your social network. I’m not talking about your Facebook friends or your Twitter followers. I’m speaking about your circle. The people who have more than just virtual access to you. Step 2: PREPARE for it to not be an easy task if you must distance yourself. Bite the bullet. More often than not your life will depend on it. Believe me when I say it is not EZ mainly because in relationships – both personal and platonic – we can get attached. Sometimes we stay when we know in our hearts that we’ve outgrown a certain situation or person. So tf you feel like this, it is either time for the person to leave or time for the relationship to take on a different dynamic. And this is the difficult part. So heed to Kevin Hart’s advice. Get some “NO people” around you while keeping this quote in mind: “Evaluate the people in your life. Decide to get rid of any extra weight that is holding you back! It WILL not be easy, but it is NECESSARY” on the road to being choosy. Enjoy your Tuesday. Stay cool and dry. Peace.